According to an age old saying, "Marriages are made in Heaven". God has made a partner for each and every person on this earth. Earlier it was parents job to find that match for their daugter or son. It was called arranged marriage. But now the situation has change. Now, children choose their soulmate and parents have to go by their choice. Sometimes, even if parents do not approve then also children marry against their will. It is called love marriage.
Now, according to a survey in India, the number of divorce cases are more in love marriages than in arranged marriages. For a good relationship it is very important to know each other. In marriage which is a life long relationship, this factor becomes more important. We all know that love marriages start with friendship. Then what are the reasons that lead to the couples who know each other so well; to divorce.
Here, is my personal take on this issue. As, I am not an experienced player in the dealing with relationship matter so please comment if you disagree.
1. Same Nature- While making boyfriend or girlfriend we look for common interests. But in marriage it is very necessary that your partner should complement you. If both are of same nature, like both are dominating, clash is obvious.
2. Both partner independent- Quarrel is there in arranged marriages too, but due to non- working female partner, she cannot take a big step of seperation. But in love marriages usually both partner are working ,so both are independent and a small dispute can become a reason of divorce.
3. Less Involvement of Parents After Marriage- Save cities, in towns and villages still parents are not in favour of their children marrying on their own. Even if they accept their children choice for the sake of their happines; they are themselves not happy from inside. In this case, if a couple have a fight and go to their parents house, unlike arranged marriage. they do not interfere enough to settle the dispute. They have a " tumhi ne pasand ki thi/kiya tha, tum hi dekho" attitude.
4. Ego Clash or Insecurity- This usually happen with males. If both partners are working and the female partner reaches to a higher position than him; it sometimes become reason of divorce.
5. Comparison From Pre-Married Life- Couples start comparing their married life with their pre married life which was full of romance and surprises. It is bound to decrease after marriage which sometimes become very irksome and leads to gloominess in married life.
6. Infidility- Due to lost romance in married life some people took a wrong path of finding that lost love outside marriage. It leads to extra-marrital affair and eventually divorce ( only if caught :) ).
However, it is also a main reason of divorce in case of arranged marriage.
7. Horoscope Not Mathched- A vital part of arranged marriages is horoscope matching. Out of 36 traits atleast 18 should match between the couple. More the numbers, more happy happy married life will be. in love marriages horoscope are not matched. Even if matched, many times the score is less than 18. Manglik dosh , nadi factor are the other things to be considered for happy married life. So, in this case the match is not idle according to Pundits. This reason will sound absurd to some, that is why I have kept it at last.
* In my family both type of marriages have been successful so far.
Now, according to a survey in India, the number of divorce cases are more in love marriages than in arranged marriages. For a good relationship it is very important to know each other. In marriage which is a life long relationship, this factor becomes more important. We all know that love marriages start with friendship. Then what are the reasons that lead to the couples who know each other so well; to divorce.
Here, is my personal take on this issue. As, I am not an experienced player in the dealing with relationship matter so please comment if you disagree.
1. Same Nature- While making boyfriend or girlfriend we look for common interests. But in marriage it is very necessary that your partner should complement you. If both are of same nature, like both are dominating, clash is obvious.
2. Both partner independent- Quarrel is there in arranged marriages too, but due to non- working female partner, she cannot take a big step of seperation. But in love marriages usually both partner are working ,so both are independent and a small dispute can become a reason of divorce.
3. Less Involvement of Parents After Marriage- Save cities, in towns and villages still parents are not in favour of their children marrying on their own. Even if they accept their children choice for the sake of their happines; they are themselves not happy from inside. In this case, if a couple have a fight and go to their parents house, unlike arranged marriage. they do not interfere enough to settle the dispute. They have a " tumhi ne pasand ki thi/kiya tha, tum hi dekho" attitude.
4. Ego Clash or Insecurity- This usually happen with males. If both partners are working and the female partner reaches to a higher position than him; it sometimes become reason of divorce.
5. Comparison From Pre-Married Life- Couples start comparing their married life with their pre married life which was full of romance and surprises. It is bound to decrease after marriage which sometimes become very irksome and leads to gloominess in married life.
6. Infidility- Due to lost romance in married life some people took a wrong path of finding that lost love outside marriage. It leads to extra-marrital affair and eventually divorce ( only if caught :) ).
However, it is also a main reason of divorce in case of arranged marriage.
7. Horoscope Not Mathched- A vital part of arranged marriages is horoscope matching. Out of 36 traits atleast 18 should match between the couple. More the numbers, more happy happy married life will be. in love marriages horoscope are not matched. Even if matched, many times the score is less than 18. Manglik dosh , nadi factor are the other things to be considered for happy married life. So, in this case the match is not idle according to Pundits. This reason will sound absurd to some, that is why I have kept it at last.
* In my family both type of marriages have been successful so far.
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